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The Rebound Effect

Have you guys seen this video? It’s been circulating ever since model Robyn Lawley appeared on Ellen, and I thought it was worth the share. In the clip, Ellen is talking with Robyn about the scrutiny she undergoes in the modeling industry, when simply Robyn responds, “I love my body as it is.”

I know we hear that a lot in interviews, and sometimes it feels about as sincere as a weight-loss shake that claims to be a fully satisfying meal. But something about the way Robyn said it made me believe her.

“The more I say I love my body, it actually works,” she tells Ellen. “It makes a positive rebound effect, and then you start loving your body.”

And it got me thinking. As women, we spend a lot of time scrutinizing our bodies – to ourselves, and to each other. Oftentimes, doing so serves as nothing more than conversation fodder. “I just ate a cheeseburger. I feel so fat!” we say to each other. “You should just see my stomach right now,” we console, or maybe try to outdo, one another. I’ve seen entire offices of women’s heads jolt upright in unison when one woman walks in proclaiming a new diet plan. “Do you like it? Have you lost weight? Is it better or cheaper or worse or faster than…?” So yes, we know how to scrutinize. Berate. Find every flaw before anyone else even thought to notice.

But love our bodies? Appreciate them? Respect them? It’s something I hear far, far less.

“Food is not the problem, it’s society,” Robyn explains. “We’re all hating on so many things, but we should just be accepting our natural size… To hate your body so much, to hold it responsible for not working… I’m more about finding your set natural weight and just being happy at that weight.”

So maybe this week, we could try to take a cue from Robyn and put a little bit of energy out there in a different direction. To actually say aloud every day, ‘I love my body.’ To worry less about how many calories we burn at the gym, and more about how grateful we are for this body that can stretch and run, inhale and exhale. To spend less time berating our bodies for gaining or losing, and more time appreciating that our bodies are really fundamentally doing exactly what we are telling them to do, through every calorie we consume and ounce of energy we expend.

Things may not change overnight, but maybe someday, we’ll be able to say, “I love my body,” as openly and confidently as Robyn did – and mean it.

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  • Adrienne February 25, 2014, 9:49 am

    Jess, this is such an important conversation! Like you, I do believe Robyn when she says “I love my body!” and she is right in saying that every time you say those words you’re reaffirming the message, because words are thoughts. They have meaning and they have power whether positively or negatively! I recently stumbled upon this blog, UnTangled, and the writer penned this beautiful message to his daughter about the female body and maintaining a healthy, positive image. It is so heartwarming and I thought you’d enjoy reading it, too: http://drkellyflanagan.com/2014/01/15/words-from-a-father-to-his-daughter-from-the-makeup-aisle/

    • Jessica February 25, 2014, 9:24 pm

      SUCH an important conversation! I saw that video and just felt like I couldn’t NOT share it. Love the link you shared too. Your little baby is going to be so lucky to have you as a mommy, I can’t even stand it! So excited for you.

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