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On Accepting Change

on accepting change

I recently read the following words by author Lewis Carroll, and liked the perspective he offered about change:

Now I am going to give you a bit of philosophy about that — my own experience is, that every new form of life we try is, just at first, irksome rather than pleasant. My first day or two at the sea is a little depressing; I miss [my usual] interests, and haven’t taken up the threads of interest here; and, just in the same way, my first day or two, when I get back [home], I miss the seaside pleasures, and feel with unusual clearness the bothers of business-routine.

In all such cases, the true philosophy, I believe, is “wait a bit.” Our mental nerves seem to be so adjusted that we feel first and most keenly, the dis-comforts of any new form of life; but, after a bit, we get used to them, and cease to notice them; and then we have time to realize the enjoyable features, which at first we were too much worried to be conscious of.

So my advice is, don’t think about loneliness, or happiness, or unhappiness, for a week or two. Then “take stock” again, and compare your feelings with what they were two weeks previously. If they have changed, even a little, for the better you are on the right track; if not, we may begin to suspect the life does not suit you.

But what I want specially to urge is that there’s no use in comparing one’s feelings between one day and the next; you must allow a reasonable interval, for the direction of change to show itself.

Isn’t that a nice perspective? I like how he emphasized patience for the difference we might see day to day, noting that the important thing was what difference revealed between one day and many days. You may read the full article here, if you’d like. I hope it offers peace in whatever changes your life presents to you right now…

{Photo via Bird with Broken Bones}

{ 3 comments… add one }

  • Gina February 19, 2015, 11:35 am

    Love this!

  • Megan February 20, 2015, 4:10 pm

    So true. Thanks for sharing! Xo

    • Jessica February 20, 2015, 9:29 pm


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